As a wedding photographer who specializes in couples' portraits and creating beautiful candid moments, I sometimes struggle with social media. I want all of the photos that I post to be perfect because my social media is a reflection of me, of my brand, and of Amy Bennett Photography. Sometimes I'll go weeks without posting on Instagram because no post is good enough to pass my impossible standards.
Here is what I know to be true about social media: sometimes it can be a lot. It can give people imposter syndrome and FOMO and inferiority complexes. It's hard to be authentic on social media because all we want sometimes is to one-up our competitors or our friends. (Sometimes we lose sight of who is a competitor and who is a friend.) But it's not going away and it's not all bad. Social media is a great way to connect with people and to keep up with the people whom we wish we could see more of. It can be a great way to keep up with family and friends who live far away.
How authentic should you be on social media? Some people try to include the ups and downs in their lives. When a celebrity like Busy Philipps does this, they are seen as relatable and down-to-earth. When your friends do it, you see them as honest and authentic. Of course, we all know people who share a little bit too much about their lives on social media, especially when they're going through a tough time. These people can be a bit of a bummer. They make us feel bad in a different way than people who only post their best moments online. There is definitely a balance to be found with social media posting when it comes to authenticity.
Posting about your engagement can feel braggy, but it can also feel really exciting. My best advice is not to post everywhere immediately after the proposal. Unless you are a social media influencer or a social media addict, you probably won't be thinking too much about the impending post right away and will be caught up in the excitement and this new step in your relationship. Celebrate first. Let yourself have time to think about and enjoy your engagement. Definitely don't start discussing wedding plans. Call your parents before you post. Call your siblings before you post. Prolong the celebration and excitement by waiting to post. That way, when you call your family to tell them the great news, they won't be able to say, "oh yeah, I saw that on your Instagram" or "Your aunt saw your Instagram post and called me."
Consider booking a photographer to do an engagement shoot before you make the Instagram official announcement. I'm not saying you should wait to tell people about your engagement for this long, but it can be nice to have a really good photo of the two of you to accompany the announcement. But, hey, even celebrities post poorly lit selfies announcing their engagement. If it's good enough for them...